The fact that BDSM is taken as some kind of fashion trend definitely annoys me. They surround us with movies, videos, ads, books, etc., which use BDSM elements, often inappropriate and even meaningless. I imagine how stupid people,  for whom BDSM is not just a practice or “peeking” of curiosity, but a way of life, an engine for emotional states, a kind of food for the spirit and the body, feel.

I myself accept BDSM as something very special, different, enriching, shattering (in my book “Perverse Games” I consider the subject in my way). BDSM is a gourmet dish with very specific spices. If you do not tolerate it and do not even want to try – you should never get caught up.

The important words in the abbreviation are:

Bondage & Discipline,

Domination & Submission – Domination & Submission,

Sadism & Masochism – Sadism & Masochism.

Anyone who is interested in the topic should think more about the meaning of these concepts, the possible practical dimensions, and the symbolism that comes from them.

My idea, however, is not to explain what BDSM is (if at all), but to write about my personal perceptions and feelings.

BDSM as a phenomenon in sexuality has a huge potential of opportunity and can give a lot to man. And beauty is in the diversity, in the many layers of our lives, respectively, in our sexuality. Trying different things from BDSM means gradually getting to know yourself, to test yourself and to improve yourself. Besides, practicing BDSM makes the person more relaxed, reduces stress and imbalance.

BDSM is not for everyone.

Definitely.

It has existed for a long time, just in the past it was not so researched and differentiated as a phenomenon or subculture. Things are present, whether someone at a given moment speaks them in a certain way, with certain concepts. A good example is the Marquis de Sac with his perversions.

The BDSM has so many opportunities …. so many roles, stories, games … variations are so varied … everything can be mixed up and everything can be isolated – you can try different things collectively, but you can do just one thing, it is a matter of taste and feeling.

Our psyche is deep and inextricably linked to BDSM. There is much to talk about. Everything is relative and there are no formulas valid for everyone. There are, rather, “common phenomena” – for example, there are powerful businesswomen who love being subjected in sex. However, it is also common when powerful businesswomen want to have the power in sex as well.

There are people who at first glance give signals whether they are subordinate, dominating or switching (these categories will be dealt with separately and deeper in separate texts), but there are those that you hardly understand – they are hiding, confusing, hard to understand.

And so…. a delicious, spicy, spicy dish called BDSM is an incredible and immense world in which you can sink. And either unhappily drown or swim peacefully, in peace and harmony with yourself ….

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